Mostly, I am a mother, wife, and a teacher, and I write about the divide that is mothering my own children while still mothering my spirit and the sacred. The divide to me is trying to balance all parts of my life and embracing the divide of self that is often being someone’s mother. I work hard to see the beauty in the mundane, and motherhood has been like a camera lens coming into focus: I see what really matters and I write about it.
When I became a mother, I started a grand adventure. I have two, small children and most of my writing is about life with them. It’s not always easy or perfect, but every day, I try harder, and it is truly the most miraculous adventure I could have asked for. My children have called me to rediscover myself, as I once was long ago. I have seen God in their faces and have been humbled and brought to my knees by it all. Becoming and being someone’s mother has been a journey for me—a journey of self-discovery as I mother these pieces of my heart. I feel like I had lost my way for years, but they have taught me how to be my authentic self.
My dream is to continue to mother my children while I teach English part-time, own a farm, and write while my baby naps and my son is at school. For now, I do all of the above, but I do it in a small town, in an old, brick house with stained glass windows. I’m working on an office space in my attic between two eaves. I love living in a small town, so for now, I walk and talk my way through town with my kids, drinking coffee as I go. Someday, I dream of raising my kids the way I was raised—in the country on land with a stream running through it.
I’ve been married to my high school sweetheart for over thirteen years, and together, we have built this family and this life. Sometimes, he shows up in my writing, but even if you don’t hear much about him, he is always in the background. Mike is always there as my constant and has been for over thirty years (yes, I met him when I was six!).
I’ve been a teacher for fifteen years and I have seen it as my vocation. Once, I completely defined myself as a teacher but now, I’m a mother who teaches. It doesn’t mean I love it any less; it is just the reality of what life now means for me. I love teaching; I love my students. I teach because it’s a part of who I am.
I’m the Contributing Editor at Cargo Literary Magazine. I write for The Huffington Post and Parenting.com and have been published in various publications. I show up most regularly on Mamalode, Club Mid, and Scary Mommy. I have also been featured on The Today Show’s social media sites and was once even fleetingly mentioned on the show. All of my published work is rather serious, non-fiction, but I sometimes write poetry and short fiction. I’ve written two children’s books, but they are still here on my computer, and I want to write a book about the divide that is mothering. Maybe someday.
I’m on the advisory board for ZERO WEEKS, a film discussing the need for paid parental leave.
I believe in building a tribe here on the page and seek to form a community with my readers. I’ve been accused of being too sensitive, so I’m just warning you! Often times, that has been seen as a weakness. But, I try to see it as a gift because I tend to be very reflective. I’m serious and a bit sensitive, but I do love to laugh. I mostly write serious things–reflections of motherhood, marriage, vocation, and friendship. For the past six years, since becoming Matt’s mother, I’ve come to terms with a shift in identity and truly have mothered the divide that has been for me. And each day the divide is different. So, I write about that.
We are all in this together. I hope you’ll join me. Come, be in my tribe.